Grief is something that at some point in our lives we are all subject to and suffer from, some for a longer period of time and some for a shorter period of time. As sure as being born we know that we will die at some time and that loved ones will miss us and we will miss them. Certainly, the emotion of grief is not only related to the loss of a person; father, mother, sister, bother, friend, but also animals who share our lives, give so much joy and companionship, but they also go to a place beyond Mother Earth, having fulfilled their soul contract.
What is Grief?
Grief is the sadness experienced when we know that a particular person or furry friend will not be around anymore to laugh with, talk to, share things with, hold and cuddle with. It is intense sorrow experienced throughout the body and mind which can often be overwhelming. It is the natural response to loss that is expressed through emotional suffering when someone or something that you love has been taken away. You might experience different kinds of emotion that just well up for no apparent reason from time to time including shock, anger, disbelief, guilt, deep sorrow or profound sadness.
Last Sunday, Dr Adrian Brito-Babapulle put out on our Whats App group a message referring to the amount of buried grief the world is experiencing today. This got me thinking more deeply about his comment and hence the blog. I don't wish to dampen everyone’s spirits, but rather to talk about the impact of grief on wellbeing and the importance of treating grief should someone have suffered a loss and never been able to grieve due to arrangements to be made, family time, kind friends, processes and procedures that have to be done to bury someone and so on and so forth.
The Covid pandemic and the residues of which we are all dealing with on one or another level has caused grief that has been experienced by many in the last couple of years. There is no such thing as standard grief, we all grieve in our own way if we allow ourselves that time. Grief can either be acute where we see the associated symptoms or chronic where associated symptoms are not necessarily visibly connected to underlying grief.
The lungs are the seat of grief. Very often grief will cause symptoms in the lungs around breathing difficulties, tightness in the chest and shortness of breath. Louise Hay talks about “breath as being the most precious substance in our lives and the lungs representing the capacity to give and take in life”. Problems with our lungs could mean we are afraid to take in life or perhaps feel we do not have the right to live our lives fully.
Affirmations can help with addressing the fear of feeling that you don't have the right to live your life fully and to take in life. Try “I take in life in perfect balance.” "I have the capacity to take in the fullness of life.” “I lovingly live life to the fullest.” In order to be effective, affirmations need repeating over several times each day until you feel you are fully living your life. (Louise Hay, You can heal your life).
Considering disease as a state of imbalance, through treatment, kinesiologists, homeopaths, herbalists and other alternative practitioners work on treating the core issue not necessarily the symptoms as when we do treat the core this will in anyway ameliorate the symptoms that the client is presenting with. You can think of this using the following analogy: You develop a rash on your arm that is red and very itchy, especially at night. As it is keeping you awake you go to see the doctor who takes a look and then gives you some cream to put on it several times a day. Sure enough, within three days the rash has almost gone. You continue for another couple of days until it has completely gone and then stop. Within two days the rash has returned! The symptoms are the rash, but what is the cause?
At this point you are probably asking “How do you know the underlying issue is grief?” The only way to tell is by talking to the person to learn about the loss in their life and consequently being relatively sure or testing the person during kinesiology on the relevant points on the body, and this will tell the practitioner the real cause of the symptoms whatever those might be and if grief will be one of several causes or the main cause.
Herbal remedies, orchid essences and homeopathic potencies all work well for treating grief. The depth at which grief has been buried will dictate how much time it will take to complete the healing process. Orchid essences, homeopathic and herbal remedies are all effective at supporting a grieving person between consultations, as well as any underlying issues related to historical grief. Plant energies not only address the symptoms, but diligently and gently support the release of the emotions that have been suppressed allowing grief to be expressed and released. That does not take away from the fact that you will still miss the person, but it does make it easier to live with.
“How lucky am I that makes saying goodbye so hard.” Winnie the Pooh “
When the heart weeps for what it has lost, the soul laughs for what it has found.” - An old Sufi aphorism
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