Have you ever moved house or travelled for an extended period and prior to going taken all your worldly possessions and put them into storage? Something like a “Big Yellow” storage unit. When returning for your possessions you were diligently emptying the unit and as you load your things on to the oversized trolley you are asking yourself “Why have I paid to put this into storage?” We do exactly this with our emotions, except it isn’t a “Big Yellow” unit, it is your heart, liver, kidneys and other organs that are playing host to your past negative experiences and the emotions that go with them. In this case there is no cost – not financial anyway.
On a recent soul retreat, I was extremely blessed to share 10 days with some incredible people. What made them incredible? Their willingness to share, to comfort, to accept you irrelevant of how you showed up, simply without judgement and always through unconditional love. This is special, yet something that we all have when our hearts, minds and bodies are free of past experiences and emotions that go with those experiences. I can almost hear you saying “Well, that’s easier said than done.” Yes, I might agree to a certain extent. As with everything in this life we have choices, these situations are no different.
Emotions whether positive or negative have an impact on our physical health, if negative and stored will ultimately manifest as chronic disease. All dis-eases have an emotional foundation. Filling your storage unit up will one day blow the door off. Welcome to the anatomy of disease. Would you put more into a storage unit that is full to capacity? You might try, but when it doesn’t succeed in frustration you slam the door shut and hope it stays that way. Your body has a capacity and when full shows up in the form of dis-ease. This means that you recognise that you don’t feel on top of your game, possibly go to the doctor and get some medication to numb the symptoms. Putting the storage unit door on the latch rather than being fully shut doesn’t work. Why should it work with your personal health?
Playing victim role and reeling off the reasons why you cannot, you have not, you couldn’t or you did try, but it all went wrong only keeps us locked in the same loop which becomes boring not only for you as the victim, but also others around you, the latter creating a self-fulfilling prophecy giving another reason to live in victim mode.
What is this all about? As one of the participants said “We are not storage units for our experiences and emotions, packing them neatly away and then bringing them out at the appropriate moment to recycle the message, both to yourself and to those around you. Recycling your story serves no one because that is not you, but your experiences which helped to mold you, but are not supposed to control you. Choosing how you react and choosing your emotions by saying, “I no longer choose to have this experience, ends the story. Will the Universe try to trick you through pressing your buttons to spark the memories and even re-live the incident? Of course, but each time you make the choice of not repeating a negative experience, the trigger becomes less and fades away leaving you to choose how you experience each day. We might say the Universe was simply testing you to see if that particular lesson has been learned.
Live in the moment! Living in the moment is living. Try using the following techniques to make that shift:
• On waking give gratitude for a new day, for a good night’s sleep, for what the day will bring.
• Decide this day will be a fun, positive, productive day.
• If triggered, breathe deeply through your nose to give time to consciously make the choice to no longer choose the negative experience and replace it through positivity, seeing the other side or advantage of the moment, but changing the outcome.
• When encountering difficult conversations decide to be understanding, kind, assertive and emotionally balanced.
• Give thanks at the end of your day for unconditional love, food on your table, friends, family and anything else that is important to you.
• Ground yourself with bare feet on the grass every day, stabilising through Mother Earth.
• Be compassionate with yourself and don’t beat yourself up if you judge that you got it wrong.
By following these simple steps each day you change the tape, leave victim archetype behind and step into your power, your joy and good health and wellbeing.
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